There is no formula to get overnight success. Maybe there is one, but not everyone will get it. So, start focusing on your own shit. I don’t know about the other countries but in India its an era of startups. People are focusing on startups rather than getting a job because it’s merely impossible to get a Good Job(well-paid job) or Government Job(for the general cast). That’s why people are starting a business, but they are not able to clear their head to get success in life. They need to create a habit/routine or set some Rules for themselves to get Success in Life. I cannot tell the method to get success, but there are some rules that people should follow which will help in focusing on the business or goal. When I was a kid I read a quote written on the wall of my school:
Failures are the pillar of Success.
You need to keep moving forward even if you fail an uncountable number of times(tell me if you have any other option. 😛 )
- 1. Stop feeling Pity or Sorry for yourself.
- 2. Stop Living in the Past.
- 3. Don’t be afraid of change.
- 4. Stop focusing on things you can’t control.
- 5. Have firm faith in yourself but don’t be overconfident.
- 6. Stop pleasing everyone.
- 7. Don’t give up after failures.
- 8. Don’t make the same mistake again and again.
- 9. Don’t expect immediate success.
- 10. Don’t be afraid to spend time alone.
- 11. Don’t be jealous of other peoples success.
- 12. Always remember this world owes you nothing.
So, I created a set of rules, or you can call it a way of living you can follow or adopt that may help you getting success in life.
1. Stop feeling Pity or Sorry for yourself.
I see a lot of people talking like:
-Nobody loves me,
-My parents suck,
-My job/boss suck,
-I cant be happy,
-My life is a waste,
-I want to die
-and blah blah and more blah blah shit.
I just want to ask a straightforward question:
“So what ?”
-What are you going to do about it?
This is your life, and you have to deal with your shit all by yourself. Do something about it. Stop feeling sorry for yourself for not having something, Start doing something to get success in life.
Just sitting and complaining doesn’t do shit. Do you think anyone cares? Even if someone does bother, so? It’s not the solution. What are you going to do about it? Stop feeling sad and pity for yourself. Start working on what you want to achieve in life or what to want to do.
2. Stop Living in the Past.
Something happened in the past should stay in the past. You can do nothing about it. So, Why to worry about it and spoil present and put future in danger?
Living in the past will mess up with your present life. It will mess up with your vision towards life, make you ignore many wonderful opportunities and steal your ability to enjoy your life. If you are focusing too much on past events, you will surely be kicking present into a hole and your future into danger.
Just take a deep breath and examine your life. 90% of the problems are due to overthinking. The best thing you can do for your life is to keep moving forward. Stop worrying about the past which already happened and start working in your present to get success in life.
3. Don’t be afraid of change.
“Don’t be afraid of change. You may lose something good, but you may gain something better.”
Change if life. The only thing that is constant in life is Change.
“A larva can never be a butterfly if he never leaves the cocoon.”
Most of the people are afraid of change due to Fear of Pain, Discomfort, Criticism, Results. All you have to do is overcome the fear. Start slowly. It is hard, but it will be worth it. Celebrate every small victory. Eventually, you will get rid of your concerns, and start living your life happily. You will be able to focus on your work or goals.
4. Stop focusing on things you can’t control.
There may be a time when you see your focus getting blurred and your all dreams or plans getting shattered into pieces and you start losing your mind as you cant control anything. It only makes you angry and reckless. You know nothing about how to deal with that stress.
Always remember you cant clear your head when you are hungry or angry. It makes everything more difficult and forces you to think that everything is impossible. Don’t hold over anything. Take a deep breath and let it go. Be focused on your life goals. It doesn’t matter if it seems impossible to achieve. Get to know your fears. Do something about your stress. Do meditation, go for a walk daily. Develop healthy habits. Focusing on the things you cant control will only make it more difficult to get success in life.
5. Have firm faith in yourself but don’t be overconfident.
Your vibes attract your tribe.
Always be positive and have faith in yourself because losing faith can end up destroying your whole plan. I see a lot of people quitting just because they think it’s not possible for them to get success. Without faith, We couldn’t expect that things would turn out all right for us no matter what the situation might be.
Faith helps you to discover your purpose in life and achieving what you want. Going through life and all of its ups and downs can shake your faith, but success isn’t something which comes overnight. Remember, The difficult situations get harder before it gets better. Another reason to have a strong faith in yourself is Faith trumps stress, anxiety, and fear. If you are free from these things, you will ultimately have enough guts to face anything which life throws at you.
6. Stop pleasing everyone.
I know how it exactly feels the urge of getting accepted by every but trust me cannot please everyone every time. If you want to make everyone happy Go and Sell Icecream. I can bet there still be some people who will find faults with you.
The reasons you want to please everyone maybe: You don’t love yourself much. So, you want other people to love you. You are less confident. You are easy to manipulate. You fail to pleases one person that matters. And there may be much more reasons you want to please everyone but just ask one question from yourself. Is it worthy? I guess not so.
You will get end up in depression when you fail to please people. Stop it right now. People aren’t worth it. The one who likes you will end up with you. Because when you stop seeking the approval of others, you’ll find that you never needed it in the first place.
7. Don’t give up after failures.
The only thing happens when you do not give up on life experience is, that you get better and better for more challenges and one day you succeed. As Long As You Are Alive Anything Is Possible. Just be realistic.
Have you seen the movie “The Pursuit of Happiness”? This movie is all about Chris Gardener’s life, a man who went for the lowest of the lows in an environment where most people would give up (no money, no job) to the highest of the highs (A millionaire with his own investment firm). If you ever think about giving up, watch this movie.
You are stronger than you think. One little failure is not enough to stop you from getting success in life. Not even 10 or 100 or 1000 failures.
8. Don’t make the same mistake again and again.
Making the same mistake, again and again, is highly risky for your plans. You need to learn from others mistake. Learning from your mistakes is good but learning from others mistake is wise. Mistakes are Part of Life for Everyone! Accepted, But you need to take your mistakes seriously because repeating the same mistake, again and again, may become the reason for your drowning.
There are very few things we need to take care of not repeating them
ACCEPTANCE: – Accept you have made a Mistake! Once you accept it, then it becomes easy for an individual to understand the problem and you can stop yourself from doing the same thing again.
FORGET:- After accepting, forget what mistake you committed because if you remember it, the after effects of it will always kill you and that same mistake will revolve around your mind.
BUT REMEMBER the CONSEQUENCES: Forget what mistake you committed but never forget the consequences it caused. As soon as you are again making the same mistake, make yourself realise its side effects it caused and then apparently you will think TWICE before making the same mistake again.
DISCUSS when in DOUBT:- Discuss the same issue when in doubt rather than committing the mistake again and again. It will help you have a wider perspective of your problem through which you will not make mistake often and often. ( via – Mansi Kataria)
9. Don’t expect immediate success.
Never Believe Success is an Overnight Thing. Study and learn the approach from the best teachers or mentors in your industry and then use it to make your own. Understand that it takes time and dedication. So, transform what you receive and implement it via the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
Never Give In or Up. Know that being consistent in all that they do, make progress and move forward while others make excuses and are left behind. They keep going when others give in or give up, and it pays off. This is how they build their expertise and authority, but it is also how they produce outcomes. (via- Sergei VanBellinghen)
I want to ask a question from you:
What will you choose?
– A company with millions of users but no profit.
– A company with very few users but making profit.
10. Don’t be afraid to spend time alone.
Spending time alone and thinking about self is investing in ourselves. The only thing that lasts in any one of our lives is us. We are there until the very end. Which means that investing in us is the best thing we can do since it continues to pay out until the rest of our lives.
The love you want from others? Find it within yourself. You lose your insecurities and embrace yourself. What others think of you matters the least and you attain a peace of mind. If you try to spend some time with your own thoughts, you may just find yourself. And when you do, there won’t be any bond happier.
11. Don’t be jealous of other peoples success.
Don’t be jealous of your competitors. Hating/Jealous your competitors is a bad idea on so many levels. You lose your focus on your work and start acting like a filthy animal.
I’ll list a few: If you’re in a fledgling market, you need the pie to grow more than you need your slice to grow. You’ll become obsessed with one competitor more than you should and will lose sight of the new entrant that can pounce because you never took them seriously. If you’re a startup, then you will likely fail and will then need a new job. And, if you’re like me, you can get acquired by a company who will then go and buy your nearest competitor. (via – Gregory Larkin)
12. Always remember this world owes you nothing.
It means what it says. You are born on this world to make your own way; you have no guarantee of health, safety, food, shelter, happiness, love, or anything else. For these reasons people formed families, communities, societies to help each other and by so doing improve our own chances for surviving and living, Make the best of your opportunity and help those around you also to survive and live. (via – Steve Kalinowski)
Entitlement is a success-killer.
Mark Twain said “Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing.” So, Follow these Rules to get success.
There is one more thing not to ignore which plays a very vital role in your success:
Extra Advice: Health – Never Neglect Your Health
Once the Dalai Lama was asked what surprises him the most?
“Man surprised me most about humanity. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
All successful people take care of their health well because they know that health is a wealth which once lost can never be recovered. They keep themselves healthy by following the right diet and right lifestyle. (via- Awdhesh Singh)
You need to create these habit/routine in your daily life to get Success in Life. When you will adopt these things in your life. You will surely be able to focus on your life or goals and get success in life.