Are you often disappointed for not getting “Good Morning” or “Good Night” messages? or maybe for not getting enough wishes from enough people on special occasions like birthdays?
Now, you may question your priority over other people’s life. You might feel depressed. Nobody seems to be caring & loving enough in your life. Sometimes, you even feel like your parents don’t look concerned enough.
Well, Here’s the thing. No one is interested in investing time into you unless you have something to offer in return. Most relationships are fundamentally based on either greed or needs. When needs are over, so does the priorities.
The only way to deal with this is “Accept it.”
Accept that the world around you is not what you expect it to be. The sooner you will realize it, the better.
Also Read: 12 Habits to get Success in Life.
The problem is we love ourselves more than others but care more about their opinions than our own, which makes us vulnerable to someone’s opinions. We want to get liked by others and want to be treated specially. But when people don’t give you attention or priority, it makes you sad and depressed. You started feeling pity for yourself. (1) (2)
What’s your definition of priority?
“Being treated more important than others.”
Is it right?
Now, if someone says you are their ‘priority,’ do you think this condition always holds?
The answer is a BIG NO.
Why are you not a priority in anyone’s life?
Most Possible Reasons:
- You are not a priority in your own life.
- You are always available. People know you’ll always be there when they need you.
- They are not proud to have you.
- You don’t possess anything; they can flaunt you in front of others.
- You prioritize people who don’t give a damn about you.
- You let yourself remain an option in their lives.
- You are valuing people who don’t respect you.
- You care too much to the extent that you let others exploit you.
- You are too good that you don’t get people are taking advantage of you.
- You are wasting feelings on undeserving people.
- You are still in bad relationships.
- You are yet to meet people who are worth keeping.
- You are always made to feel inferior to them.
- You don’t know to respect yourself to stop letting them exploit you.
- You don’t know how to shut doors for people who use you. (5) (6)
Consider an imaginary example; you were on the road and suddenly met a dangerous accident. Out of nowhere, you are lying down, unable to move, and you realize these moments can be your last.
Now someone who is an absolute stranger may well be on their way to the most important event of their life; maybe their marriage is on next day, possibly their first job interview, perhaps the last date to apply for their dream home, or just to their final year exam hall. Or their husband/wife/children are waiting for them at home.
That stranger already has the highest priority but sees you lying and about to die if he doesn’t help. At that very moment, even though some people on that road are reluctant to come forward, you automatically become THE PRIORITY of this absolute stranger who takes you to the hospital and arranges blood for you, if required. This stranger becomes your lifetime hero.
Many wives complain that they are not the priority of their husband, especially when their husband visits their friends.
But if, at that moment, a husband’s priority is a friend needing some advice or help, maybe at 3 A.M, does that mean his wife is not his priority?
The answer is NO.
It’s just that moment (or many moments altogether) that requires the topmost attention.
So, let’s say one fine day, you get married, and your wife gives you the utmost attention and priority. And after some years, you and your wife have a baby. Do you think you are the top priority anymore? 😉
When you were born, consider you were already someone’s priority at some point.
So if priority is the queen of the chessboard of life, the real king is – “The Time.” And time changes.
A Piece of Advice:
Don’t give a damn about why you are no one’s priority. Put yourself at the top of your priority. Just devote yourself to yourself. Compete with the yesterday’s you to be a better tomorrow’s you.
Trust me; you will thank me later. Just focus on yourself. Because ten years later, It’s unclear whether the person you want to make into the priority list will be in your life. So, choose your priorities carefully.
Ultimately, it boils down to whether you want to earn respect and meaning in your life or care about what others think about you and whether you are a priority in their lives.
Always care for the people who genuinely care for you (parents, siblings). You are an absolute priority to them.